Navigating boundaries & expectations around the holidays.
What if, instead of aiming to manage everyone else’s expectations this holiday season, you felt free to focus on what YOU are most excited to experience.
If you struggle with boundaries, you may find yourself more worried about balancing everyone’s expectations through the holidays than considering what you actually want to do.
You may be focused on:
*Who’s family will we spend each holiday with?
*What should I cook that will make everyone happy?
*How can I show everyone how much I care about them?
*Where should I travel to that will allow me to make the most people in my life happy?
Rarely do our own needs, desires, or capacities enter into the equation when we struggle with people pleasing, codependency, and porous boundaries.
On the flip side, if we struggle with rigid boundaries, we may fail to consider what we actually want & need and focus more on avoiding any and all commitments in the attempt to avoid feelings of obligation and maintain freedom.
If you’re struggling with this, you might want to explore with your therapist: